I came across an article shared by some friends (credit: Emily, Ange, and Jackie) on Facebook yesterday that struck a chord. How to Talk to Little Girls by Lisa Bloom is an article about changing the way women see themselves one conversation at a time by changing the way we talk to the little girls in our lives. Being an Auntie of 3 nieces (soon to be 6 after I'm married), and um, being a girl myself, this article really hit home for me.
Bloom says that by complimenting a girl's appearance before her intellect, we are "teaching girls that their appearance is the first thing you notice.." and that "looks are more important than anything." As I read through her article, I sheepishly recalled the thousands of times I greeted my nieces with "You look so beautiful!"/"Look at that gorgeous hair!"/"I love this outfit!"/"Are you the cutest thing ever or what?" Sigh. It's hard not to oogle over their beauty, but their minds are just as amazing and easy to compliment. Time to make a change.
Read the article.
It's just so true. Let's take a cue or two from Ms. Bloom and start inspiring the little girls in our lives to grow up as confident, capable, world-changing women. Hopefully the popular media will follow our lead.
What's your take on this? We'd love to hear your comments.
Lisa Bloom is on Twitter and Facebook.