Monday, April 4, 2011

What is sexy?

The sexiest people are sexy because of their attitude, not because of they way they look. They come in all shapes and sizes, all hair and eye colors, all races, all ages. Sexy is laughter. Sexy is joy. Sexy is attitude. Sexy is smiling, smart, self assured. Sexy is a state of mind and is reflected in the way we speak, carry ourselves, and interact with others. It doesn't mean being "easy," just as much as it doesn't mean "playing hard to get." In fact, being sexy isn't necessarily about sex at all. Not that I'm an expert. These are simply my own opinions, but I have a feeling that others will agree. Picture this: A man and a woman sitting at table at an outdoor cafe. You stroll by and think to yourself, "Wow, those two are" Is it because of their body types? Probably not, because you're only passing by and really, it's rude to stare. Is it their clothing? Or their hairstyles? Most likely this isn't the case. It's probably the energy you feel radiating from them or maybe between them...the tangible comfort they feel in their own skin. This comfort is the key. It's the thing we strive to feel each and every day, and it's the reason we work to make ourselves healthier and happier. And that's the goal: Comfort in the skin you call your own. Confidence in the brain that supports your conversation. Appreciation for the body that carries you, contains you. These are the attributes which create sexiness. It's not your pants size, the size of your bank account, or the amount of time you spent getting ready. It's the energy you give off and it's the way you inspire others to feel good about themselves. The more we enjoy being with ourselves, the sexier our energy becomes. At least, this is what sexy is to me.
"We are all of us stars, and we deserve to twinkle."
-Marilyn Monroe
Here's your sexy challenge of the week: Remove all judgment from your mind and do something that scares you. Whether that's dancing in public or wearing that tight shirt that you tend to avoid or speaking up at work with an opinion or telling your crush how you feel (finally!). Do it and feel good about it. Remember that we don't have to apologize for who we are, only be who we are. Now, that's sexy. What does "sexy" mean to you?


  1. I am attracted to people who appear to be comfortable with themselves. They may not be the center of attention, or be the most talented conversationalist...but it's an energy a person exudes as themselves and in the company of others.

    Also, I like what you said about not apologizing for how we feel. At the end of the day if we act and speak with our hearts and heads, there's only looking back and seeing things with additional clarity - no regrets.

  2. Love this post! confidence, determination and pride are sexy to me. believing in adventure, love and life is sexy. energy is sexy